INTRODUCTION:

Well, I’m middle age. There is no doubt about this, as my grey hairs have accumulated more. Granted, the first Grey hairs I ever had was as a teenager, at 16, but now the bottom of my beard is white and the sides of my head look like I belong at a Grateful Dead concert, but much like Jerry Garcia, I will get by.

So I have been around long enough and experimented with people in a plethora of ways. Nothing weird or unscrupulous. As such, I have shifted through a lot of data that, mostly was originally meant for Pre-Crime: The Future is Now V1, 2018 available on this website. I’m working on V2, which hopefully I will compete by 2025.

Now, I was fairly knowledgeable in my youth. I mean, I was a predominantly A student, but there is still some things even I didn’t know until I was in my 20s. Take for instance Friend Zones.. Didn’t know that was a thing until that Ryan Reynolds’s movie came out. I was 19 when it came out, didn’t see it until I was 21. if you asked me when I was a kid, what that was, I probably would’ve thought it was a hidden Sonic The hedgehog level that only game shark or game genie could unlock, you know, back before the video game industry made you pay for unlockables instead of earning them or using aforementioned machines to cheat your way to them. I was a polarizing teenager, you either loved me or hated me, there was really no in between. Still isn’t for me, but at least in my advanced years, it’s hopefully for more than just typical dull bullshit, I guess that depends on where I go though.

So this is primarily written towards Gen Z, whom will likely take the most from it. While most of it will, hopefully be ever green, I can’t garuntee it. So anyone born post Gen Z can take what works for them and everything else with a grain of salt.

Typical everyday Gen Z are going to be the ones that get the most from this book. If your parents are Gen X, thumbs up. If you, unfortunately have parents my age, or the millennial personality, you’re probably not going to get too much out of it. Although there will always be exceptions to the rule, so you’re welcome to try the data out for yourself, but the most woman are probably going to be put off by your toy buying ways. If you’re a chick reading this, you’ll be in slightly good luck as there is something’s that I noticed that Gen Z girls can slightly improve on, nothing too drastic as I seen your moms make similar mistakes when I was growing up and your dads too!

FRIEND-ZONES

So we’re starting here. It’s important because it going to be the place that influences pretty much everything in your life. How? Well, while I never really understood this, some people of both male and female varieties take things personally. Even Ryan Reynolds’s character did. Pre-crime 2 will dive deeper into what seems to make up the mind set of this type of individual, but thankfully, we don’t need that here.

So basically a friend zone is when you, the man, make a mistake by not being manly and striking while the iron is hot. Thus you get micro penalized for it. It’s kinda like hockey, you get ejected from the game and into the penalty box with no predestination of time you’re going to be there.

Thankfully for you, there is a way out of it. It’s called “Not giving a fuck.” See, as in the movie, sometimes you’re making yourself too available and well, simping. You got the L rizz and no cap, you ain’t coming back from that. Best way to get the W rizz is get away from her for a bit and don’t pedestalize the woman in question. Girls, same goes for you and the boy you like not seeing it in ya.

Why is this? Because you’re coming off subservient to the individual. It’s one thing to be low key, it another to be lowly. Men and woman have different strengths and weaknesses, but one of the universal traits is undesirable humility. There is Humble and then there is lowly stature. Even the science backs up the idea of healthy functioning narcissism vs Narricstic Personality Disorder or the opposite of feeble mindedness.

Granted you’re occasionally going to come across people , which while they aren’t way more common in my age range than it seems to be in yours, so delusional that anything less than that level of mental illness is seen as humble, simply because it’s not as bat shit insane as they are. Avoid these people!

I know a majority of you are smart enough to see this as a red flag, but that doesn’t always help. For example, when I was 22, met a woman through an adult education system. We barely knew each other, we’re not talking like know each other by years here, but days. Less than a month I would reckon and she was all like “tell me you love me.” What in the blue fuck? She had skibbity L toliet rizz. Thankfully she eventually fucked off, but weirdest year of my life. The biggest give away should have been the weird fucking spelling of her name, it was redneck as fuck. Needless to say she was not very mindful, not very demure. Got to yeet them outta there!

Back to the friend zone in question, there is also nothing wrong with being friends with a woman in general as plenty of other things can prevent you from getting with said person. Remember, being friends with a homosexual that is a lesbian for a man or a gay man for a female isn’t a friend zone, it’s security in yourself. While not everyone will appreciate your lack of insecurity at a young age, as you get older the right people will.

While there may be more nuance here and there, the basic gist of how one ends up in a friend zone has been covered as well as how to get out of said friend zone. It’s important to cover the basics more than the subtle parts, since a majority reading this are probably very highly intelligent and part of intelligence is solving the problem yourself, this will help you in the future by understanding your own life experiences and sorting them as you are apt to.

The Gen Z Stare

This is something I noticed as I walk around to get whatever provisions I may need, and by that I mean booze. Lot of booze! Ok, maybe not that much but it sounds a lot better than going out for a fuckin hamburger, of which I desire to be double and with fries. A side…uh, aside, this isn’t the first time I have seen this problem arise. The first time I was 19 back in 2005. I noticed a male and female in their 30s, attempt to engage one another but it seemed awkward. I didn’t really think much of it until I noticed Gen Z doing this too! Well, to my luck, a Gen z girls TikTok randomly appeared in my feed once, confirming what I suspected was a bad attempt at flirting. See, men and women are similar creatures but do things drastically different and for different reasons. This comes from both not understanding how the opposite side works. See, looking a woman in the eyes for a man is a good thing. If you’re going to check them out, do so from a distance, but once they are within 6 feet of you, you know Covid distance, you can’t check their tits out anymore. You got to square up and look them in the eye. That said, while women appreciate that, they also seem to think that is flirting. It isn’t. Flirting takes a lot more than just the confidence to look someone in the eyes and talk to them. You need your basic pleasantries too, but while a woman may see that as more, a man is going to become confused.

It gets worse from here with other things I have observed from young gen z girls that confuses me when I observe them out and about. That’s one of the reasons I am writing this, it’s downright frightening to think some of this innocent behavior could have disastrous consequences for them, from narrasitics idiots and sociopaths. While I do not have children, it’s still frightening to think about the idea of a daughter of my own having such negative things come upon her.

I assume some of their malign ideas come from seeing idiots my age in their 20s as it certainly didn’t come from Gen X, as that’s not how they operated in the 90s and 00s for the most part. I feel like Madmen might also be partially to blame here. Jon Hamm might be a great actor, but Don Draper is no alpha male. The 60s only worked because it was so outlandishly toxic that people just delt with other wise douche bag behavior. This wouldn’t have flown back in my day as we have this thing called sexual harassment policies in work and school. One such behavior I observed, was something I first saw as a teenager back in 2000. It was ass slapping behavior. This stuff should never be done outside a bedroom. The right guy will see it as a shit test and avoid it, the wrong guys will probably do worse. Thankfully it’s not at pandemic levels, but as I said, what if it was my own daughter inviting toxic behavior? Obviously something needs to be said. Thankfully most of the Gen Z guys seem to be on the level and not being uncouth. If I had a daughter I wouldn’t be mad if she brought a gen z guy home.

ONLINE DATING: I’ve checked out some of the Gen-Z social media and if you’re looking for a partner, forget it. These sites don’t seem to have anything of value to sell you, even now. These sites and old ones like OKCupid are trash and offer Millennial style “personalities” at a fraction of the age the echo boomers are. Probably best to be avoided as much as possible.

COMPLIMENTS

Ok, so another observation I’ve noticed, although not as horrible as the above that could really get you into a horrible time, is compliments. I known by now that woman thrive on compliments. One of my suspicions on what fuels engagement on social media. The more feminine the individual, man or woman is perceived, the more likes and retweets they are apt to get. That said, the real world doesn’t work like social media, thankfully for us. However, this is a good way to see if the individual you’re dealing with, may or may not be narcissistic. I’ve noticed some individuals, if not having their compliments reciprocated, will take it overly personally. Pre-crime Vol 2 will have the answer as to why that is, but that’s not important here.

I understand that some people need compliments, however one needs to be selective in how they give them. I’ve seen people incidentally love bombed into a frenzy over an innocent compliment. Not something you would want to court.

For the woman, the more feminine the male in his youth, the better he will probably understand you. However the more masculine ones won’t get it.

FLIRTING

Now that we got that out of the way, we can deal strictly with flirting.

I’m not the king of the flirt, it’s not a masculine trait. However, it easy to pick up on from most people. It’s never cocky to think someone could be flirting with you, if you’re a guy, but you need to know the difference between her being nice and her hitting on you.

Smiles are great, they could be an in. However, that’s not a great way to jump into the sac, you got to slowly tear back the wrapper, so to speak and get more details on such.

If a woman smiles and keeps walking, just let it go. If they were interested in a conversation they would have stopped. Like the TLC song says “Don’t go chasing waterfalls, stick to the rivers and the lakes that you’re used to.”

Assertion vs non assertion is the next part of this point. It’s not assertive to incidentally detain someone to turn it into a win. It is assertive to be able to parlay a natural conversation from friendly to more.

Remember, assertion is when you have the right. Being a dickhead is when you don’t have the right. In other words, being a male Karen is the latter, not the former. Look at Boomers and Millennials, they think they’re assertive when they’re not. This is why millennials are part of the most arrested generation of all, cause they’re toxic or hostile in most engagements. Do the exact opposite of everything they do, cause almost none of them know how to actually engage a human correctly to make connections that are lasting. They are really good at making it look otherwise though.

For woman, you got to do more than the Gen Z stare. Take a hint from that 80s movie, Ferris Bhuler’s day off. He talks about playful hits, sometimes called “love taps” as a way of showing interest. I’ve seen that work occasionally. Innocent touch to a guy can prime a man towards smaller reciprocal touches, like hand holding. This does give you an invite into base running as the old cliche goes.

DATING:

Now we’re going to see why I call this “unqualified” dating advice. The last time I went on a date, I was 12 and it was with my “girlfriend” at the time. It was such a horrible thing that I’m still single going into my 40s, because I’m happier that way. However, I have been able to get laid enough without dating. We however are not going to focus on getting laid with this, rather look at dating rationally.

The main point of a date is basically to see how you and said individual square up, right? Why then, does dating always either end up in a boring business meeting at a restaurant or one that’s too fun and doesn’t test your potential mettle as a couple? Traditional dating, for lack of a better term, sucks. Not to quote Gordon Gekko, the Wall Street character, not the 90s PlayStation character.

If you’re looking for a partner, the ballet or a play, your typical restaurant, probably not the best choice. Ice skating could be a good choice, you’ll really find out their character.

Basically what I’m trying to say, is that you need an environment that allows you to sync up and get on the same page, but still has enough of a challenge to see how you would engage as a couple.

OLDER DATING: I’ve slept with older woman and in some cases it was better sex than I ever had with millennials, baring one. Listen to my first podcast on one night in 2013 with a millennial to know what I’m talking about. Most your peers seems decent, don’t waste it on woman that bitter, angry, dried up Karens. Same for the woman in Gen-Z. However I won’t fault you if you choose to do so. Your body, your choice.

MARRIAGE: To quote Ozzy Ozzborne “Don’t ask me, I don’t know!” Never been married, don’t see the value in it.

Marriage is more a temporary contract for having kids than a NPD level of delusion that this is your forever mate, that it has become. Who knows, maybe they actually are, but is it right to force such a burden on it? Think of your friendships, did you enter into saying “we’re going to be friends 100 years from now?” The answer was probably no. So why do that with marriage?

The way I see it, you get married for the sake of having a family, keep it to a manageable 18 years. After that, you’re both free to go, or you can renew your love and stay married. So much easier than having your marriage be the equivalent of that Kiss song, forever.

Personal opinion, but I think moving away from the traditional marriage set up, could reinvigorate it and create a stronger, lasting set up. think of the bullshit with in-laws and holidays with travel, ect. Don’t forget money problems. So many things add stress that wears at the “love”. So maybe treating it as you would during divorce, where you just co-parent would be most beneficial to you and your spouse.

Remember, I’ve never been married so take this how you will.

KIDS: ok, now I’m highly unqualified here. You’re on your own. I would say this, in order to love your children fully, you must be able to love your partner, quirks and all, because kids are a blend of both of you. If you hate it in your spouse, you’ll hate it in the child. Also, don’t parent like an idiot boomer or millennial and you’ll probably be fine. Good luck!

CONCLUSION: I went over as many relevant things as I could think of. I left some more “advanced” stuff out because it requires me to understand your specific situations. However, given the fact the advice is free, well, you get what you pay for. This is stuff I’ve observed in others and or, delt with in my past. I really don’t know if it will apply to you or not, but at least you got it for free. In the future, I may need to extrapolate to this, but it seems to be fine. If you have any questions, feel free to ask your parents. If this works for you, consider sending me bitcoin. Peace!