I know that’s a bold claim to make, but hear me out on this one. So, since I have very electric taste in what I follow for various reasons, sometimes a bunch of similar things will get caught in my feed at the same time and for different reasons. So a lot of “how to defeat a narcissist” clips have been showing up in my feed and they’re disingenuous for a lot of reasons. As someone who has tried a lot of these tactics with people that might have NPD, I have noticed they never work and also always exacerbate the problem. I’m not sure if it’s because the tactics are outdated or because these idiots are wising up the narc to go beyond we’re they used or, or what.

One case in point was when I was 22 ish and a woman who I bearly knew, was on the verge of a divorce, wanted to get to know me and none of these things seemed to get her away from me. She just kept at it. I knew back then it was an obvious red flag when she ask me to tell her I loved her when I had barely known her. I was also talking to another woman I was interested in at the time and wanted to see where that went, since she wanted to wait until the divorce was finalized before proceeding with fully putting out. She was open to light “cheating” though.

So naturally I looked some stuff up to see various ways I could broach the subject, since my gestures weren’t deterring her from badgering me.

Having tried all these things they put into the videos, I find they’re a boon. So my logic is, if you suck at your job that badly, should you really still get to have it? I mean these are people that are giving people sound advice, by their standards, claiming they’re degreed in this and if you had paid for the advice, you would have a malpractice suit against them. So what gives that these continue to go unchecked and the American Psychiatric Association hasn’t put them out to pasture yet? Cause if you have ever tried any of this, you know by now they’re making large sums of money off you continually losing to the potential NPDer. So where is the gain for anyone to actually win? Cause much like the narc, you have to go back to these people and they get their not toxic supply. It’s like the circle of violence for domestic abuse.

Maybe you have had a different experience here, but from my point of view, it seems like the real narcs are in these videos.