Tag Archives: Non-fiction

Core Arguments against marriage.

The annoying people, aka celebrities and influencers, are trying to make marriage trendy as if it’s a positive thing. Here’s why marriage is worthless and how Gen Z can correct the course of love for future generations.

So the baby boomer brigade ruined the sanctity of marriage pretty much permanently, however, of all the stupid shit the boomers have done, this might actually be one of their best contributions to society as a whole.

If you don’t know by now, most boomers are NPD as fuck. Their idiotic millennial children are mostly the same way. They cared too much about the frivolous nature of fitting in and in that, they are annoying as all hell. However, that need drove marriage into the garbage where it belongs. The alleged number of failed marriages for a boomer is 7.

That’s a lot of fucking up. I mean, this is the generation that gave birth to 1980s materialism. So they were born to make marriage successful, right?

Marriage was the original 1980s materialism movement, yet instead of money and bank accounts, you got tracts of land, power and a fetted goat. What of it? Well, that doesn’t strike you as a ritual based on love, right?

What you’re seeing in the news lately when you see a celebrity getting married is undoubtedly a PR move, more so than a love move. I mean, celebrities are the second biggest group of fuck ups that aren’t boomers and millennials and when were celebrities ever known for being able to keep a relationship going?

The celebrity stereotype in my youth was all press is good press, so keep jumping into affair after affair to keep yourself relevant.

Ideally, you marry for love, not power or money. You both start on a semi even keel and build a life together. The science says for men it’s slightly across and down. For women, it across and up.

So an example of this would be college educated students. Ivy League man, state school women. State school man, community college women. Community college man, high school graduate and high school graduate man, high school drop out. Those are the likely barometric data for that.

Same would be true of degrees. PH.D Male, Masters degree female. masters degree male, four year degree female. Four year degree male, high school diploma female. High school diploma male, dropped out female.

Each one is slightly across and down for a male and slightly across and up for a female.

That’s easy to understand. What about houses or cars, or celebrity status, or other bullshit? If you have 19 rooms, do you have to date someone with a paltry 12? No, the easiest barometer is the fiscal status. Slightly across and down would be millionaire to half a million. So you tally all fiscal shit and do it the easiest way you can, however, that’s not love. Yet, that is exactly what marriage was intended for, during its heyday of the Middle Ages.

So my arguments against marriage have been these over the years.

  1. It’s mostly for the female anyways. Men don’t really care for the ceremony.
  2. . It’s mostly just a structure for children
  3. It’s a bad deal for most involved past a certain time frame and the pooling of resources.
  4. Love is better than a ceremony
  5. It’s a failure more often than not
  6. People put too much stock in having to make it last forever.

What the conclusion should be, is that marriage, when people try to adapt to it, turns them into toxic people and ruins the state of love.

So what can Gen Z do to combat this? Besides overturning the system and starting from scratch, civil unions are your best bet. Why? Cause a civil union doesn’t homogenize your finances, it doesn’t care about your cars, ect.

Its sole reason for existence was a work around to gays wanting the benefits of marriage, but people wouldn’t allow them. It says the state recognizes your love and gives you the most important benefits of all, making meaningful plans that positively affect each other. Such as medical decisions or similar situations. Thus, remaking marriage into a more meaningful and purposeful system again, instead of a decedent ceremony over stuff.

So it would be wise for Gen Z to not fall for the idiocy of celebrities trying to get a shitty system over, for the sake of attempting to stimulate population growth or whatever the goal is. 99% of the celebrities married probably have never been in love, have no clue what love is and did it for the PR. Gotta stay relevant somehow, uh?

However, this isn’t an indictment on love, but how love as been cast aside in favor of worthless attention seeking behavior.

Take me for example, I made power play after power play throughout my youth, intentionally taxing myself out of the Insanity of millennial and boomers bullshit and I got amply rewarded each time. If I didn’t do what I did, I wouldn’t have found my best friend and that love was way more important to my life trajectory than anything else I could have gotten from a marriage. It helped fix the basis of pre-crime, it helped set the stage for Bestinyourgirl and made our friendship more rewarding.

Quite frankly, in New England, I wasn’t going to do much better than that in the millennial age range and judging from the rest of the internet, wasn’t going to do much better in general across the US either.

I, however, personally preferred a meaningful friendship over marriage any day of the week.

I pointed out in a previous post, I’m old, not pathetic. So I may as well point out the pathetic and problematic veneer of marriage and point to a brighter future that the Gen Z kids could cultivate.

As John Lennon pointed out, all you need is love.

In closing, Make Love Great Again

Stay metal 🤘

How to be productive in relationships, a guide.

Men and woman view relationships differently. A woman puts more stock into them, a man doesn’t. Men have historically been simpler than woman. However, leave it to idiotic millennials to fuck this paradigm up. So you heard of mansplain. Well now there is man keeping. Except man keeping isn’t unique to just men, it’s females that do it too.

Mankeeping is defined as a lopsided relationship trope where one partner is shouldering the emotions of another, without it being a two way street. Except men have delt with this bullshit way longer than woman.

My longest relationship, not a dating one, was about 30 years long. My girlfriend from when I was 12. We both met in preschool in the 80s and we stayed friends off and on through, due to moving around, for 30 years. It finally fell apart because she went back to doing annoying shit that I didn’t like about her in middle school. I also knew her sister for equally as long.

My next several relationships, non romantic, are two years away from turn 20. I met them in a MySpace chat, one on FB and I’ve been on good terms with most of them ever since. My bestie being the strongest relationship because we had the ability to grow it more. One friend of mine is from England so obviously we had just the internet and another of mine lived in the sticks that you couldn’t get to and now resides in the south.

After that, most of my friendships lasted about 10 years, like one male friend of mine from kindergarten that lasted up until I moved to NH.

Anything less than 5 years has been a rarity for me.

In all that time I have learned one thing and that is that why friendships are great, they’re not the end all be all. I was good in life without my friends and I would still be fine even if we never met and that is because the first rule of any relationship is a healthy sense of self. You have a whole life outside of your friends that includes family too. Without this foundation, your relationships will crumble.

The second most important thing in a relationship is setting it up as is and being as open about everything you can up front. You’re setting the tone for however long this thing lasts. Be honest and real. Too many bitches out there fronting as is.

Another way of framing this is the 1960s Batman show. If you seen it, it’s on Netflix if you haven’t or YouTube, a running gag through out the show was that Batman always had the right tool and the right time, but unlike James Bond that has Q to set up the gadgets, aka foreshadowing, it’s hokey. So if you’re a ballbust be that, if you’re in need of emotional support, be that.

The third part is that all relationships are two way streets. It requires both to be there for one another, not parasitic. Millennials have made all relationships woefully inadequate. They’re about as good at it as their idiotic boomer parents. They think they’re liked because enough people placate their ego, but the reality is that if pushed, not a single one of those people will be there for them.

The lopsided aspect has things in common with NPD. I know I’ve spoken of things like this is the past and I’m working on a bigger, overall peice in it. However, no relationship can be one way.

The reason i liken it to NPD is that, they often exhibit great deals of dejection from quasi hurtful things. Things that are so mirco no one would take your dejection seriously.

Take this example for instance. Back in the 90s I was checked for cancer in Boston. Thankfully I didn’t have it. However, this negatively impacted both of my parents, both were dejected and both worked towards supporting one another. That’s why you expect from a partnership, especially when things impact the both of you. Same when things happened to my siblings. This guy isn’t what we’re seeing with millennials. They act like things only affect them and not their entire families. There is a non medical term I like to use for these people and that’s “loser.” And we all know, as the onion points out, depression hits losers the hardest.

Communicate with your friends and partners. This is another important role in keeping relationships going. without it, everything is going to hell and millennials suck at this. It’s almost impossible to communicate with them when they’re not in your life, never mind when they are.

Which leads me to my final aspect, emotional intelligence. Read their body language and understand them. Like one time my bestie and I had a misunderstanding when I made a joke. Normally she takes it well, but not that night. Even though I knew it was more likely all the other bullshit in her life that made my joke seem worse that day, I had to man up and apologize because that was indeed my bad. I saw her body language was in dejected mode and worked towards keeping us on track. If the relationship is worth having, it’s worth sollowing your pride for.

Thankfully most Gen Zers I meet understand these and at quite young ages. People my age could learn a great deal from them.

So let’s recap as to how to start having better relationships.

  1. Sense of self
  2. Laying it all on the table
  3. Reciprocity / mutualism
  4. Communication
  5. Emotional intelligence

Working towards getting these basic elements down will result in better and stronger bonds.

Stay Metal🤘