I told you I was working in a longer piece.

NPD, narcissistic personality disorder comes in a variety of flavors. However, your basic bitch version comes from the parable of Narrcisius, the Ancient Greek dude that loved his reflection so much, he drown in the river Styx. Never mind that Styx was supposed to be a shallow river, so he was stupid too. I digress, though.

So, ironically, NPD has to affect the narc the most in order for it to be a personality disorder. it’s an internal need that the narc has to placate in order to be whole that’s adjacent to normal drive. So for instance, you need to adult, pay your bills, ect. Friction that keeps you from achieving these goals can be stressful, however, it’s not NPD because life makes that a necessity. However, being famous for instance isn’t a need, thus it’s NPD.

Another instance, especially the in a looks driven Millennial world, and you can’t really blame them given most, including the celebrities are fuck ugly. However, if you’re trying to date exclusively to attractive men or woman and that causes you friction, then you’re NPD.

you’re lucky enough to be Channing Tatum good looking, and not dating attractive cause you friction, then you’re NPD.

In other words, it’s the ok to not fuck ugly people and doesn’t make you NPD for saying no.

Another Millennial NPD factor is their unnecessary need to fit in and buy the right clothes or other bullshit branded thing to be liked. That’s NPD because it’s causing you unnecessary friction in your life.

If someone doesn’t like you for you, that’s their loss and if the autism brigade like Boomers and Millennials hate you for it, that’s them being malignant narcissists. No one has a right to cause you problems over something as dumb as clothing or a cup of coffee. Shun those people, you’ll be better off.

A good exception to the rule of the above is summed up here. The 3rd Die Hard

Obviously the above will piss people off. However, within the movie’s context, McClane would have been more NPD had he not done as such, because he would have had the deaths of people on his conscious.

Need to always give your opinion to people? You’re NPD. Random strangers do not have to value you or your opinion and that doesn’t make that person a narc for not valuing you one way or the other. Your reaction, in the negative to someone not having much thought you one way or the other does.

The Narc often lacks self reflection, thus it’s hard to change, because doing so would require a deep delve into themselves and looking bad isn’t in their psyche. No, they’re good people, it’s you who are wrong.

What millennials seem to do is what is historically referred to as “marking” a pro wrestling term that used to be used by con men. You would treat the mark in question how they were dressed and attempt to dupe them out of whatever you thought you could get. So going out in $1000 dollar Armani suit, they would expect to be ass kissed by everyone as if they were a celebrity. That’s NPD makes you a narc. Most normal people would treat you accordingly to actions and not clothing.

Words aren’t necessarily NPD, it’s dependent on the overall context of the event. Ted Budy took personal responsibility for his crimes when it was too late and said pornography made him do it. Hate to break it to you, but that’s still a narc thing, because had there been real remorse, he would’ve stopped at one and turned himself in.

Words oftten associated with NPD, as catch all to shortcut explanations, because reading and thinking is too difficult, make for a warm security blanket and a sumg sense of superiority, but none of it is accurate. Hey, those internet gurus with their worthless degrees have to make money somehow, so they throw stupid phrases that a person with NPD could have said, that are not really things related to narcs because they tend to be narcs themselves and need the attention from you worshipping them on the internet.

Quick aside, As a general rule, if the talking head on YouTube seems like a boomer or millennial, they’re probably NPD, ignore them.

Since only the narcissist knows they’re a narcissist for sure, most of these people giving you the advice have their heads up their ass to keep getting your engagement for money.

Like I’ve mentioned before, if you paid for this, you’d have a malpractice suit on your hand. That was mostly about the phonies online that exist just to cause friction.

Here’s a sure fire way to spot a narcissist. Intersectionality with you, in a harmful manner. We’re talking about actual harm, not made up bullshit. So let’s use an actual example of this from my personal life.

When I was 16, I lived in a certain area where I met a 18 year old man and a 25 year old man online and we played cards. A game known as WWF Raw Deal.

The 18 year old was the one we are focused on, because he’s the one in question that caused a ruckus for his need for attention.

Anyways, the 25 year old and I were only friends with him because we felt bad, because no one liked him. He was a textbook millennial. Thought his opinion always mattered, constantly having arguments with people over petty stuff. He, like most millennials, suck at being normal. The average millennial is NPD at minimum, and outright sociopaths in others. NPD would just be an improvement, over the later.

So the 25 year old and I thought we could help him and have him having a better life than he did and boy were we both wrong. Those two ended up breaking up with each other over the 25 year olds, uh, romantic interest let me say and how the 18 year old thought she was ugly. Not the underling fact she was 16 herself when they met.

Hell, knowing these two caused all three of us friction in our lives and was quite possibly one of the dumbest things I ever did in my life. They once had admin privileges on a site called Team Canada Online. A moderately decent Raw Deal/Pro Wrestling forum.

So this prick called AmericanNightmare76 had issues with the three of us spending time together. However it wasn’t because they were hanging out with a 16 year old, rather his own jealousy, since he literally IP banned the entire town over it. So they ended up losing their admin privileges over that and I was banned and then I signed up again to be a righteous prick, because what type of toxic cocksucker takes it out on a whole town?

Never mind the fact that when I moved to Biddeford in 2004, and the owner of the card shop asked how we knew each, the then 27 year old JOKINGLY , told him we met in a juvenile detention center and we fell in love. Of which the store owner of said place then was more interested in why I was in allegedly in juvenile detention, when I wasn’t , over the whole nearly 30 year old man saying he Child molestied me.

Honestly it’s for the best all three of us stopped spending time together as it always resulted in negative bullshit.

Now, in this story we’re talking about the 18 old. He had this friend and the friend in question eventually became a full time WWE wrestler. He was released years ago and it didn’t last long as a stint.However, this has never stopped that former 18 year old, now 41-42ish, from running his trap about it, and with mentioning my name in the context, because I’ve had people who don’t know me, ask if the story was true, years after the fact.

Oddly enough a person with NPD would have run their cocksuckers about how they knew that person before they were famous.

However, if you can’t prove it, it’s irrelevant. For instance a friend of mine I’ve known since 2007 from a MySpace chat has done substantial on a certain social media platform, however, I don’t tend to run my cock sucker about it. I’m proud of him and glad he’s my friend, but what exactly am I hoping to get from such by telling you? The answer is nothing.

Now, I know you’re curious to know, the answer to who the wrestler was in question and if I knew them, and the answer is I won’t tell you, but it might have be them.

I wasn’t friends with the future wrestler in question, I just played Raw Deal against them, potentially and took second place in that respective tournament in 2003. Only Comic Images, the 25 year old and the game shop know for sure. Either way, I didn’t like him then and not a fan now, so it’s a moot point.

However, the former friend in question, was having actual intersectionality with my life by people asking me things that aren’t their business anyways, so he could he get whatever perceived value a mid carder would have. Fuck if I know what that would be.

The reasons we’re former friends is because , of all things, I refused to help him get over in the Indy wrestling of this state. He knew I knew wrestling well and wanted to capitalize on that. He wanted to be my manager, since that’s what he trained in. however I never wanted to be a performer. I can’t stand acting or entertaining people in general, it’s a waste of my time, talents and years of education to be regaled to the back of the bus like Rosa Parks.

Also, the whole aforementioned bullshit of every time the three of us are together, bad shit happens.

However, he got pissed at me. Some of the back and forth between us still exists on the internet, however I’m not going to share it out of the fact it’s still no one’s business and I don’t need him getting attention more than he has. Thankfully he deleted himself from my facebook and I have not seen him since 2013. The 25 year old ended up marrying the 16 year old in her 20s and had kids with her.

I need to make the point though and that is this being textbook NPD. He was driven by his need for stature at the expense of his friends, he caused negative consequences in the lives of people like myself and the former 25 year old.

There’s also the opposite of gaslighting he uses, which is the implementation of false memories esoterica that the internet doesn’t give.

Like he claimed the wrestler in question and I had a match together. A match that he knows never took place, because he autisticly needed a road story to be like “the boys” in the back. I know so, because that’s how he pitched it to me back in 2013/2014 or so, when we were at the 7-11.

The fact he claims the wrestler and I went to school together, which never happened, given the age range between him and I, is a 6 year difference,so he would have graduated long before I was a freshman, for the record I entered into high school in September of 2000.

He knows I’ve been courted for pro wrestling multiple times in my life and I declined each time. I have never stepped foot in a ring. The closest to wrestling I’ve ever gotten was horsing around with friends in childhood. I am, however a fan of wrestling and have historically enjoyed watching it.

So with that out of the way, what’s NPD about it?

So on the DSM spectrum this would type as

1. Need to associate with high profile people or institutions(Kage note, a wrestler being high profile in his mind. Lmfao!)
2. Delusions of grandeur, like his constant attempts at working only in Hollywood and his failed attempts over and over again.
3. Need for validation.

Those are 3 out of the 12 or so criteria. You only need 4 to be considered NPD by a professional. I’m not a professional, so I’m not diagnosing him, however I’m educated enough to spot the problem and have walked away from it.

That is real intersectionality with someone’s lives and multiple people’s to boot. Some narcissistic take faux intersectionality to a new level, just a person working the same job as them triggers them and they don’t want that person around. That’s not real intersectionality. It like saying you have an emotional support celebrity without that celebrity consent. It’s a falsehood and outright mental illness at that. Just existing isn’t a normal persons cause for concern. You have to be harming someone in reality, not just their perceived misgivings.

These are of the utmost importance in explaining now NPD really works. It not pointing out that people are overly sensitive, especially when they are, because most NPD people are overly sensitive themselves, so they’re just projecting themselves on you. Everything these videos tell you, are often just the narc projecting their bullshit onto you.

Now, When I started Bestinyourgirl.com, I had one rule that was the most important of them all, that was, unless necessary, all celebrities were persona non grata. Why? They’re worthless SEO, for one. Too many idiots abuse their names for that.

2nd, they completely irrelevant to a website that’s all about my writing. Some might say that makes me NPD. Does it? If I came into your place and put my feet up without permission or invitation to do so, am I not breaking and entering? Of corse I am, right? So naturally, we’re going to ignore them. Arrogance? Maybe, but what has a single celebrity done of any value in the last 20 years or so? Nothing! they have losers who circle jerk them and call themselves a fan base.

Pre-crime, without tooting my own horn too much, is probably the most brilliant thing anyone has ever come up with and yet, I’m supposed to pretend actors and the ilk are on this level? Lmfao! You pretend for a living and I get shit done for the sake of it. We are not the same.

People will say I’m jealous. Weird for a dude who never even tried his hand at any of it and rejected a majority of things I could have done in the field.

People will say I’m arrogant. Technically true, but merited. I’ve bested more people than most celebrities have fans for my Google rank.

People will say I’m petty and that’s your problem.

All things a narcissistic asshole would say. That’s you projecting on me.

What if I told you that pretending the audience matters is neither narcissistic nor selfless. What if I told you, that no matter how well an act of entertainment goes, I always feel dejected after. What’s more narcissistic? Continuing down that path or shunning it? my answer is continuing down that path is more NPD. Why? Because I’m causing myself friction internally. It doesn’t jibe with who I’m am in my youth and who I am as an adult.

Some might say I’m selfish, people need humor. Doesn’t the world need more doctors, police, firefighters, veterinary technicians though? Is it selfish that at 39 years old, I’ve spent the last 20 years of my life educating the world? Have I done light stuff like reviews, sure, but I’ve done some interesting and thoughtful pieces as well.

Why do I phrase such so arrogantly? For a reason, because not only is that entire statement true, not a single bit of it is NPD. It doesn’t met the criteria for it. Delusion? No, we’re past that stage as my system seems to be relevant. Special treatment seeking? No, because the algorithm I invented makes me meet the criteria for a deity. What’s that criteria? Omnipresent, omnipotent and Omniceinant. why is none of this NPD? Because it doesn’t meet the criteria of a personal plight internally and if it can be proven then my rhetoric is irrelevant.

Not writing for instance gives me more of a personal plight. Would that make me NPD? Absolutely! Ironic that not writing, something inherently not necessary would drive me batshit to not do. Yet the egregiously arrogant statement doesn’t.

Here’s a mild NPD test that you can use to see if your one. Which of these statements is true?

1.) I’m a good person if I stop someone from being a celebrity.

2.) I’m a bad person for not stopping someone from becoming famous?

Answer yes to one and you’re NPD. Why? What right did you have to Garudian another persons life? The answer is none. You had intersectionality in the negative way.

Walk by a narc and not give them preferential treatment, they will try to negatively impact your life. Why? Because they took it personally. Oh nooo! That makes me a narc according to internet videos. Why? Because of a phrase over context is more important to the butt hurt brigade than reason.

Not a single one of those last statements were flattering to me, yet, fuck you! Uh oh, I lacked empathy for the reader. Were you really hurt by that though? No? Didn’t think so. Yet I’m a narc for that too!

Pretty much every mental illness in the DSM is just NPD by different names. Nightmare disorder? That’s NPD in sleep. Why? Because it causes you the disorder. Social anxiety? That’s NPD over neurotic tendencies.

As I’ve pointed out in a video from my 20s about Autism “provided a doctor clears it, it’s ok to be an asshole.”-Kage

Damn it, there I go again, being a narc because I quoted my brilliance and was unsympathetic to a fictional desiese, that I don’t believe is caused by weird nutrition, I don’t believe it exists either.

It’s not the fact, that gaslighting, doesn’t exist. Only weak minded bafoons fall for that. It’s not flying monkeys bs or anything the internet has lead legions of idiots to accept and cause NPD witch hunts. It’s a lot more than videos let on.

Shit, even The Bible got it right by naming pride as a sin, because when it’s counter productive, like not taking personal responsibility for yourself , it’s NPD type of shit.

As a recap, words are irrelevant unless they can or cannot be proven. The narc needs to basically ruin their lives for it to even be NPD. Only they know for sure. Someone telling you you’re wrong isn’t gaslighting, thinking your friends are special to you isn’t narcissistic, just because a rando online or at the store takes issue with it. Applying to any job doesn’t make you NPD because some places only have a Walmart to work, get the gig and shut up and help yourself and other loved ones.

Lastly, fuck these retarded internet gurus that tell you it’s in phrases or other bullshit. They should all be de-monetized and no longer allowed to practice. They too busy using you as their flying monkeys to witch hunt people and be relevant like most wannabes, when the below average brigade that is the general public, don’t have the credibility or credentials to even type you.

Until next time, stay metal 🤘