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Why it’s ok to think your partner is ugly.

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I know I’ll catch a bit of shit for this, but I have a valid reason for it.

You won’t always find your partner attractive and that’s normal and natural. It’s how you engage and act after thinking that, that really matters and here is why.

So, we’re evolutionary prone to stay away from things that hurt us. Disease, being one of the major things. You’re learned from Covid that quarantines sometimes work. We learned this in childhood when our parents had us stay in our bedrooms to prevent other family members from getting sick.

What’s one way our parents or friends noticed. “You don’t look so good” is normally what is said, or something similar to this.

So even though your partner isn’t Family by blood, unless you’re from Kentucky, they’re still a loved one. Especially when you have kids involved.

So it’s more than permissible to find your partner to be unattractive from time to time. Especially when they’re sick. It’s a natural trait of human empathy to want to see the sick in an unflattering light, ironic though it may be.

Think of the novel Lolita. Humbert makes poor Delores put out, even when she’s sick. A human being cares for their partner and puts them first. They’re more than just a vagina or dick.

Thinking your partner to be unattractive actually presents you in a flattering way, instead of narrasstic. however, like above, tactful presentation is key.

Think of the 2008 campaign trail where John McCain got shit on for leaving his first wife with cancer and rightfully so. That’s a rather poor way of going about it. I know it’s easy for me to say, given the whole I’ve been single for years, however being a serial monogamist gives you no more special knowledge than a dude that set out being a CAD.

However, much like your partner and you, this is not about one single individual, rather it’s about the idea behind being selfless in selfishness. Oxymoronically though it may be, there can be far less conceit in selfishness than selflessness.

I’ve pointed out before that a child between two people act as a blood bond, a sacrament and as such, makes your partner equal to family.

However, since you’re not genuinely blood, there isn’t the same need to stay with said partner in today’s day and age. However, you both develop independent needs to protect said child or children. That’s a selfish concept. You give your kids what you can, because it pleases you, the individual to give to them. Like with all things in life, context is key to understanding.

This brings me back to the topic at hand, which is to say that finding your partner unattractive may seem selfish in the sense people try to tie the word to anything negative, however, wouldn’t you be better off acknowledging that feeling instead of being insecure that it makes you seem negative? What’s more selfish in that regard?

I’m against morality as a concept, because I see it as childish. However, I do believe in right from wrong and that we have 4 biological imperatives. The 4th is the most no shit Sherlock thing ever, I almost never include it and leave it to the three major ones. Don’t rape, don’t steal, don’t kill and the 4th is don’t incest.

Finding your partner ugly doesn’t count as one of the major four, so it’s regaled to basic right from wrong. It’s never wrong to think things through. Bad thoughts are not tantamount to bad actions.

It’s good to have a fantasy outside of your partner for instance. Porn is good for giving you an ethical “cheat card” to think of someone that isn’t your partner as an option. cheating would be the worse option.

Thinking your partner unattractive is the same as the above.

Remember, sometimes love requires asymmetrical trains of thought. It’s not criminal to find your wife or girlfriend unattractive from time to time, it is however horrible to dump them for not living up to a bullshit standard you can’t even live up to 24 hours a day.

Stay metal 🤘

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KAGEGIVING: Axis Bold as Love (2025)

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DISC ONE

So disc one is all stereo versions of Jimi’s songs. That’s great if you’re into it. Personally I prefer listening in the original mono versions. How there isn’t anything inherently wrong with these versions either. It’s just one more way to enjoy Jimi Hendrix and to rediscover some great music in different way.

DISC TWO

Classic Jimi Hendrix mode and nothing you need to to review with more depth. The music speaks for itself and that is the shining point of any album.

DISK THREE

Some new and interesting. Experimental guitar track being my favorite and the most interesting, especially given the Hendrix learning I’ve been doing. Sounds like it’s possibly the uni vibe giving this song its unique flavor. The 69 vibe emulates this well.

A whole lot of different takes. Love it!

DISC FOUR

The live versions of past works is where it’s at here and the different styles. Foxy Lady is a heavy as it’s ever been.

CONCLUSION:

Jimi Hendrix is Jimi Hendrix and you can’t really spell it out better than that. Unlike the previous release that was mostly alternate takes, this blend’s reinvention for a modern era with the past, as well as some new goodies to discover. That’s a really fantastic deal for a remake of a 50 year old album.

So is this something to be thankful for? Hell yeah!

5 outta 5

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Core Arguments against marriage.

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The annoying people, aka celebrities and influencers, are trying to make marriage trendy as if it’s a positive thing. Here’s why marriage is worthless and how Gen Z can correct the course of love for future generations.

So the baby boomer brigade ruined the sanctity of marriage pretty much permanently, however, of all the stupid shit the boomers have done, this might actually be one of their best contributions to society as a whole.

If you don’t know by now, most boomers are NPD as fuck. Their idiotic millennial children are mostly the same way. They cared too much about the frivolous nature of fitting in and in that, they are annoying as all hell. However, that need drove marriage into the garbage where it belongs. The alleged number of failed marriages for a boomer is 7.

That’s a lot of fucking up. I mean, this is the generation that gave birth to 1980s materialism. So they were born to make marriage successful, right?

Marriage was the original 1980s materialism movement, yet instead of money and bank accounts, you got tracts of land, power and a fetted goat. What of it? Well, that doesn’t strike you as a ritual based on love, right?

What you’re seeing in the news lately when you see a celebrity getting married is undoubtedly a PR move, more so than a love move. I mean, celebrities are the second biggest group of fuck ups that aren’t boomers and millennials and when were celebrities ever known for being able to keep a relationship going?

The celebrity stereotype in my youth was all press is good press, so keep jumping into affair after affair to keep yourself relevant.

Ideally, you marry for love, not power or money. You both start on a semi even keel and build a life together. The science says for men it’s slightly across and down. For women, it across and up.

So an example of this would be college educated students. Ivy League man, state school women. State school man, community college women. Community college man, high school graduate and high school graduate man, high school drop out. Those are the likely barometric data for that.

Same would be true of degrees. PH.D Male, Masters degree female. masters degree male, four year degree female. Four year degree male, high school diploma female. High school diploma male, dropped out female.

Each one is slightly across and down for a male and slightly across and up for a female.

That’s easy to understand. What about houses or cars, or celebrity status, or other bullshit? If you have 19 rooms, do you have to date someone with a paltry 12? No, the easiest barometer is the fiscal status. Slightly across and down would be millionaire to half a million. So you tally all fiscal shit and do it the easiest way you can, however, that’s not love. Yet, that is exactly what marriage was intended for, during its heyday of the Middle Ages.

So my arguments against marriage have been these over the years.

  1. It’s mostly for the female anyways. Men don’t really care for the ceremony.
  2. . It’s mostly just a structure for children
  3. It’s a bad deal for most involved past a certain time frame and the pooling of resources.
  4. Love is better than a ceremony
  5. It’s a failure more often than not
  6. People put too much stock in having to make it last forever.

What the conclusion should be, is that marriage, when people try to adapt to it, turns them into toxic people and ruins the state of love.

So what can Gen Z do to combat this? Besides overturning the system and starting from scratch, civil unions are your best bet. Why? Cause a civil union doesn’t homogenize your finances, it doesn’t care about your cars, ect.

Its sole reason for existence was a work around to gays wanting the benefits of marriage, but people wouldn’t allow them. It says the state recognizes your love and gives you the most important benefits of all, making meaningful plans that positively affect each other. Such as medical decisions or similar situations. Thus, remaking marriage into a more meaningful and purposeful system again, instead of a decedent ceremony over stuff.

So it would be wise for Gen Z to not fall for the idiocy of celebrities trying to get a shitty system over, for the sake of attempting to stimulate population growth or whatever the goal is. 99% of the celebrities married probably have never been in love, have no clue what love is and did it for the PR. Gotta stay relevant somehow, uh?

However, this isn’t an indictment on love, but how love as been cast aside in favor of worthless attention seeking behavior.

Take me for example, I made power play after power play throughout my youth, intentionally taxing myself out of the Insanity of millennial and boomers bullshit and I got amply rewarded each time. If I didn’t do what I did, I wouldn’t have found my best friend and that love was way more important to my life trajectory than anything else I could have gotten from a marriage. It helped fix the basis of pre-crime, it helped set the stage for Bestinyourgirl and made our friendship more rewarding.

Quite frankly, in New England, I wasn’t going to do much better than that in the millennial age range and judging from the rest of the internet, wasn’t going to do much better in general across the US either.

I, however, personally preferred a meaningful friendship over marriage any day of the week.

I pointed out in a previous post, I’m old, not pathetic. So I may as well point out the pathetic and problematic veneer of marriage and point to a brighter future that the Gen Z kids could cultivate.

As John Lennon pointed out, all you need is love.

In closing, Make Love Great Again

Stay metal 🤘

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Valentine’s Day 2023 Editorial.

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Now, I make it no secret that I find Valentine’s Day to be one of the worst holidays ever. In fact, the last time I posted on VD day was back in 2014. A decade since and I find it fitting to do another post.

Now I’m not one to moralize. I believe that humans are born of biological imperatives that make us who we are. When you lack the objective criteria, we refer to this as ASPD or sometimes Psychopathy and Sociopathic tendencies. A majority of humans should, ideally, be normal but as I pointed out in my essay on millennials, this is not the case. Boomers are just as bad, but a majority of my ire centers on millennials because I was born in 1986. Fact of the matter, the average millennial “personality” is a personality disorder. Refer to my essay on millennials to read more the sociopathic tendencies.

Now, given en the sorry state the world is in, I’m going to discuss something that seems weird for someone that has been an atheist since about middle school and that is Jesus. I know, right? Here we go!

Plasm 51 is the corner stone of atheism. Outside of just does God exist or not. If it was mearly about God, people would not have arguments focused on just Christianity. Sexual immorality is a major theme on both side and when it comes to palsm 51 and original sin, It’s entirely misconstrued. Here is the misleading excerpt.

5 Surely I was sinful at birth,
sinful from the time my mother conceived me.
6 Yet you desired faithfulness even in the womb;
you taught me wisdom in that secret place.

Now, I can understand that at first glance, where one could think of original sin as sexual relations, given that it’s about being sinful in the womb, but that’s not what it really means. What it is saying is that humans are born with a sin in the very least. They’re are at least 7 that humans are prone to. The other problem with atheists is that they do not seem to understand that Plasms is a world for religious song. This is the equivalent of taking Black Sabbaths Iron Man at face value. In other words, It’s absurd.

The seven deadly sins are so called because each ones is excessive. All of them exceeded the natural order of normal. Lust is excessive sexual desire. Greed is excessive need for money or material. Wrath is excessive anger where it need not be. Gluttony is excessive indulgence past need. Sloth is being lazier than normal. Envy is excessive jealousy and Pride is excessive egocentrism, aka narcissist personality disorder.

The reason I am getting this out of the way before I get into the meat of this editorial is because an understanding of a majority of western values is, for better or worse, steeped in Christianity and inextricably a part of our culture. A single misunderstanding can be a major downfall of a people and I believe we are at that downfall.

Today, a lot of people will be engaging in the love of being in a relationship and with that comes sexual partners. As I pointed out, sexual relationships are a normal function of humans and it is not in and of itself immoral. Immoral is a lack of foresight for the consequences that could come from Valentine’s Day. Really, any day for that matter, but today it is perhaps more so than ever. Sexual relationships should be more than just, I came and maybe have to worry about an STI if I didn’t use a condom. It’s the innumerable children that by November, will be born out of Wedlock. Worse yet, born of a union that is comprised primarily of lust, resulting in keeping a partner around, just for the kids sake. A child without love is no different than a designer hand bag. Studies show that kids do better when both parents are together. Peer bonding exist. Fatherless/motherless kids grow up to have worse relationships, possibly even becoming sociopaths in the long run. That is just a small sample of the science on it. Regardless, Every child deserves two loving parents to help raise them to for fill their purpose in this life. As one would say to drink responsibly, so to should today be about fucking responsibly.

Now, I’m not judging anyone for their life choices here. I have no kids and I have never been married. The only relationship I ever had was at 12 and you can’t really call that a relationship, perhaps. Yet even I can tell that the world and its ways are in the shitter majorly. We’re potentially on the cusp of world war 3 for fucks sake. Something has to give when it comes to a hypno-moralistic society and it’s inability to form connections with one another and the earliest relationships we form are with family and friends. This is why starting with Valentine’s Day we should be hyper cognitive of the consequences of sexual irresponsibility. In my mind, sexual immorality should be referred to as sexual responsibility. It makes it easier to understand and since a lot of the USA’s sexual hang ups hinge on a misunderstanding of biblical text, I see it as a imperative to correctly interpret its text. As pointed out above Science, after all, continues to make the Bible more and more relevant than ever before. We owe it to the future of our nation to ensure a bright start and a clear path to prosperity. One of the biggest problems with sex, is the lingering atmosphere of the Old Testament. I’m not old enough to have grown up in a world where Christianity focused heavily on this, rather my understanding of the Old Testament was that it was the original covenant between the Jewish people and God. It lays out creation and how moral a person ought to be. While most people want to remember the Old Testament and liviticus for saying not to fuck dudes in the ass, the same text forbids beastiality and incest. It never said “tho shalt not fuck the hottie at the grocery store.” I hardly could call the book immoral at that point as many atheists have. One look at porn hub makes a return to the Old Testament seem very reasonable and relevant. I mean, the Old Testament is part of the Jewish faith and the scorn on it could constitute antisemitism as far as I am concerned. Never mind the lack of irony in preaching humanism, which is just Christianity with no God or Jesus. I’m not saying everyone should run to church on a Sunday, rather we need to rewind a bit to delve deeper into the problems of the world and if the Bible was the problem, then a reexamination should be on the table, but in context, as opposed to informal refutation of general, non biblical bric a brac. Otherwise we may doom another generation to sexual hang ups of the previous generations. The modern atheist movement may have extracted God from everyday life, but it didn’t cure the problem. It only exacerbated it! Science knows the first 5 years of a child’s life is most crucial to their development and it is probably no coincidence that peer bonding last about that long. Children are a covalent of love between two people that are not related and makes them bonded as family. This is why, again, we must relook at the causality of why humanity seems to be unable to forge basic relationships. It’s not pornography, nor television, nor even the Bible that, in my mind, is really the problem. A study showed rats, when malnourished for connection, became addicted to drugs or used them more than usual. Rats, last I knew, don’t have a religion.

Maybe the reason a relationship with Jesus was so historically important was because of the fact, regardless of his existence, the hypothetical nature of such, helped as any other aid a child might use to grow as a person?

Once again, I’m not calling for everyone to rush back to church. Rather, I am saying, maybe Valentine’s Day needs to be revered than it has in the past. Perhaps, like a religious holiday, we used it to examine ourselves and relationship building within our society. Something has to give as far as I am concerned and if that means advocating for Jesus, so to speak, given its tradition in society, perhaps that isn’t such a horrible thing.

In conclusion, the world needs to better focus on its relationships and responsibilities to themselves and our fellow man and I cannot think of a better day than today to discuss a return to a more positive world. If we don’t do something soon, there may not be a world left. So even if we look at the Bible as philosophical, isn’t it worth keeping around, since it’s core tenets are not just reasonable, but still highly relevant?

I leave you with John 3:16 as a parting thought.

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

Happy Valentine’s 2023.

Edit:1:18pm 02/14/23 major extrapolations and revisions to the text.

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Kickstart my Heart.

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     It is that time of year, when men everywhere forget to make plans for that romantic getaway, woman weep because they’re single and I can buy a large box of chocolates for $45.00 that only comes with one piece of candy that I like and about 35 pieces that I do not like, which taste no better than a common candy bar at the store. Yes, the Christmas. Er, Valentine’s day is here again.

     I’m not opposed to love, If you manage to find love, fantastic! My main concern is wondering why we need a stationary day to express our appreciation for the person that we’re in love with. Call me crazy, but if you’re in love, finding a day to express appreciation for your significant other should be the easiest thing in the world. Why could you show love for them just as much on August the 15th as you could on February the 14th? The boot to the economy, that is why, plus snow. Fuck you, snow!

     Going outside seems to be a wicked pissah for anything that isn’t going to work or something else that isn’t obligatory in the winter time, but it can be just as fun as any and without the bullshit of macro holidays that have little meaning.

     Which brings me to my next gripe with Valentine’s Day. When everyone is doing it at the same time, doesn’t it lack any semblance of being a special day? There is no surprise factor. Much like a flu shot for the millionth year in a row, it is mundane and routine. I think Valentine’s Day should be randomly assigned to a specific day each year, so that it is slightly more interesting. So starting with 2016, that special day could just as easily be the 25th of May as it is the 14th of February. Watching people scramble only two weeks ahead of time lends to Valentine’s Day the same excitement as a football game or a car chase.

     This single handily increases the worth of the day tenfold, which is great, because the other reason for finding this holiday to be a pissah is walking down the street and seeing all those single zombies slushing by with a grocery bag filled with Häagen-Dazs ice cream to cry and slowly feed themselves to death over the fact they don’t feel worthy of love. That is just the men that I’m talking about, never mind the woman who keep tissues at hand more readily than a teenage boy and feel much worse and drives them to watch movies like Fifty Shades of Grey.

     Speaking of bad decisions, while I’m at it, Valentine’s Day should be put on the schedule list of drugs. “Scientifically” speaking, Valentine’s Day, much like cocaine or heroin, often leads to bad decisions and not just the hideously awesome sweaters that you’ll wear once a year, but choices made out of desperation, just to not be alone when everyone else has someone. Like using dating profiles or worse, binge watching romantic comedies on Netflix. What other worse decisions could possibly be made than watching Four Christmas’ two months after the fact? Come on government, these atrocities need to be prevented, because no American deserves to be tortured by Vince Vaughn’s “acting.” It is inhumane and cruel and unusual punishment on both the psyche and the body, all because someone is single?

     If Valentine’s Day has taught us anything, thought, it is that people need someone validating their “love” like it is a parking garage ticket, which is a shame, because true love should need no affirmation from anyone other than the two people involved.

     The best way to express your feelings for a person isn’t with an expensive hotel room or hundred dollar box of chocolate that comes with a wicked awesome 10ft teddy bear–which in no way have I bought for myself, ever!—but with a simple kiss of appreciation for what your partner brings to the table on any day of the year and not just once. Simple expressions throughout the year make for a lot more than once a year when you try to compete with the world to show people how in love you are. Much like a closeted homosexual, it is obvious to everyone that isn’t you that you aren’t in love.

     Oh well, at least the 15th of February rocks, because 50% off Valentine’s Day candy is the shit!

(Minor corrections on 15 FEB 2015)